A few weeks ago on Twitter a Twitter handle popped out at me “The Gay Dad Project.” I wanted to know what it was about. So I tweeted them and asked if I could interview them. One of the co-directors, Erin Margolin, got right back to me and was happy to do it.
It’s an impressive documentary in the makes and Erin has three very small kids so the fact that she’s doing this is even more impressive.
Read about Erin’s project here.
Gay Dad Project obviously jumps out at one, what is your documentary about?
Our documentary is quite far from finished, but in general
terms it’s about kids who have had a parent come out
of the closet after being in a heterosexual marriage.
When I say “kids,” I’m not talking about little ones; I just
mean anyone who has experienced this — kids like me.
I’m 37 years old, but I’m still a “kid,” in a sense, and I always
will be as long as my parents are still alive.
What drew you to this project?
My own life and living through this. My dad came out of the
closet when I was 15 years old. He and my mom had just
celebrated their 20th wedding anniversary. That was back
in 1991, so as you can imagine, it wasn’t a time when you
could just talk to anyone about it.Back then I was desperate
to connect with other kids who had gone through this. I
wanted to read books about it. But there wasn’t much
out there. That is *finally* starting to change and I have
hope that the trend will continue.
I see that you have a producing partner, how did you two become connected?
Do you live in the same city?
Amie and I found each other through a mutual friend who also had a gay dad.
Amie lives in California, and I live in Kansas City, so unfortunately we don’t
live near one another. But in a way it’s good because we each do different things
and we’re in different areas…so it sort of spreads more stuff around!
How did you channel your creativity pre and post children?
I see via your Twitter bio that you have three kids so you
are obviously a busy mom.
How did your creativity change post children?
I have always been a writer and have kept journals
off and on throughout much of my life. That evolved
into blogging. I started my own personal blog in 2007
when my twin daughters were potty training! I’ve
kept that up over the years and wish I had more
time for it. But we had a surprise/miracle baby in 2011,
so I guess you could say my hands are full again
for awhile. It’s a good kind of full, it’s fun being a
mom to three girls. And once the youngest starts
kindergarten I’ll be able to throw myself headlong
into writing. Or something like that. ;-)
How much time do you put into the documentary?
How many months or years have already gone into it!
Did you get financial backing?
We started filming a year and a half ago. We are not constantly
filming because we have to do a little at a time based
on our budget. We did a crowdfunding campaign on
Indiegogo last year and raised $20,000, but we quickly
realized that wouldn’t get us as far as we wanted to go.
We have tentative plans to launch another crowdfunding
campaign, but we haven’t finalized those details just yet.
Do you have plans to take it to festivals?
We would love to do that! Sundance HERE WE COME!
In all seriousness, Sundance would be my dream
come true; but we’re not done yet and we have
a lot to learn as far as all the different festivals go.
And there are rules with each of them, i.e. if you
submit something, you have to wait a certain period
of time before you can submit to another one. It’s a
process, a long one, and we’re learning as we go.
We hope to shed light on different kinds of families.
We want other “kids” like us to know they’re not alone.
There’s still such stigma attached to being LGBTQ,
and the whole coming out process can wreak havoc.
I wish it wasn’t that way….then again, if it wasn’t,
I wouldn’t be here (my dad knew he was gay when
he was 12 years old, but knew it wasn’t acceptable. So he
married my mom and figured he could stuff it down,
pretend it away. One day he realized he couldn’t do it
anymore, & that’s when he came out, left my mom, and moved out).
- This is a photo of Erin, bottom right, Erin’s dad is seated to her left and that’s Erin’s producing partner Amie and her dad, standing.